Another reason that plays a significant role in destroying your relationships is — holding grudges. Believe it or not, you cannot lead a happy life with a person against whom you hold grudges. Forgiveness is essential to have a great relationship.
If you tend to pile up negative emotions, then trust, a happy relationship is a distant dream for you. Remember that no relationship is easy in the world; even genuine soul mates may encounter periods of turbulence, conflict, and even infidelity. But with love and care for each other, you can deal with any situation. While stockpiling negative emotions will simply breed bitterness, jealously, and paranoia. Your mind should be free of negativity to have a happy and healthy relationship.
No relationship can be worked out successfully if you only care about yourself and your needs. All successful relationships in the world are based on a sense of compromise and collaboration. Each individual should consider the needs of their partner and place them ahead of their own. People who tend to put their own needs first can never have a healthy relationship. People who tend to doubt their partners can never thrive in a relationship.
Trust is one of the most critical parts of a healthy relationship. If trust is missing, nothing can be done. Doubting your partner will simply create hollowness in your relationship, which is not easy to work out. Blames games are worst; they can spoil any beautiful relationship in the world. Most people tend to pass blames on their partners rather than saying sorry when they are wrong.
This is the worst thing that anybody in a relationship could do. It directly impacts your relationship and destroys all the positive emotions and feelings between two people.
More often than not, people miss understanding that besides being partners, they are two individuals also. In the process, they make each other their life.
Know that you need to have a life outside of your relationship also. And there will be a time when you will have no friends, no hobbies, and no life. Your life is more than just a relationship. So, you need to have your life as an individual as well. Depending too much on each other makes the whole relationship suffocating in the long run. Often people, after getting into a relationship, forget to take care of their own appearance.
However, this thought is not wise. Believe it or not, but the level of pride you take in your appearance reflects your inherent values and attitude towards your relationship. Those who neglect to take care of themselves not only lack drive or hunger for self-improvement, but also they showcase that they are not prepared to make an effort to look nice for their partner.
Another most common reason that can destroy your relationship is being disrespectful to each other. The foundation of any relationship is respect. If you are disrespectful towards your partner, then nothing can save your relationship in the long run. Of course, each person should be treated respectfully. As much as you might think those feelings are too boring to share, they remain just as important to share.
Yes, the passionate feelings at the beginning of any relationship tend to fade for most people. Nobody likes to not be heard. We hook up together in life for many reasons — shared perspectives and outlooks, physical attraction, shared spirituality, shared professional lives, etc.
When fun leaves a relationship, it can be a sign that the relationship is heading to the rocks. Pack the backpack and get your outdoors on. Boy, am I guilty of this one! Not because I wanted to, but because it was a personal concern whose impact I never fully understood until it was too late. Nobody likes being told what to do, or how to do it. When I want to nitpick nowadays, I just keep in mind that if I want to go to the trouble of offering unrequested advice, I might as well suggest I do it myself.
Or just do it next time myself, without having someone needing to ask. Wow, threatening your significant other is such a turn-on. Threats are often made in an act of desperation or feeling like a situation is out of control — the threat is an attempt to regain control. They say the one thing worse than being hated by someone is simply to be ignored by them. The same is true with relationships.
If you take a lot of the previous tips and add them together, you have active ignoring. If you insist on turning every little fight into more than it needs to be, the stress of constantly walking on egg shells is eventually going to become overwhelming.
Being unnecessarily critical. No one is perfect. Always passing the blame. Subtly trying to change each other. Lighthearted teasing might seem like no big deal… until it starts to take a malicious, hurtful turn. Pretending to listen.
Valuing honesty over tact. No one likes their flaws to be constantly pointed out, so know when to keep your mouth shut.
Not making quality time for each other. Notice I said quality, not quantity. If all you do is small talk over dinner, watch TV in silence, then go to bed, you might as well have spent the night alone. Making each other your entire life.
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